Sparks

I met a guy on a plane once who offered me an assessment...he said, “if you don’t mind me saying so, you have a lot of rules for someone who doesn’t like rules” I about spit out my mineral water. Busted!! seriously, I hate other people’s rules the most but apparently my rules around food and religious freedom were rules of mine this kind gentleman took issue with. Guess what? You are your own authority. You get to decide which rules to follow and which ones to break. I love to break a rule but as a recovering good girl in reform school, (thank you @realkasiaurbaniak ) I could break many more and I’m fixing to. Care to join me? What rules have you been living by that don’t belong to you? Fuck it! Let’s break this patriarchy down!! And follow @realkasiaurbaniak to learn from an expert. I’m just getting started. ✨✨And on an entirely separate topic...I am wildly inspired by the artist and fellow interior designer @amandacarol_collection who does the most gorgeous abstract paintings and who’s artwork is the canvas for my quote. You must go follow her!✨✨
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Ages can be a few weeks or a few years. This past weekend an old version of my beloved and I showed up to play. I was like “we’re back to this?!” I thought we had grown through this pattern ages ago. But sometimes right before a massive up leveling the old versions come back for one last hurrah. And it’s so damn painful! But we can do hard things and I’m a greedy bitch so I know when it’s extra painful it’s going to be extra expansive. //✨✨
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Do you ever wish your business had more flow and less effort? Maybe you are running your business in the ways most of us were taught by the culture and they aren’t working? They weren’t working for me so I started to notice how much easier it got as I let go of the patriarchal structures that are common place in business. Competitiveness, righting and wronging others wasn’t working for me. In this video I share some of the ways my business is shifting as I shift how I’m showing up for my team.

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One of my favorite realizations this past year is the power of being witnessed and also witnessing others. We play a game called “what do you wish people knew about you” and we keep asking that question until the person feels fully witnessed. So, what do you wish people knew about you? ✨✨
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The point of having tools for self care practice isn’t to fix or change you. It’s to enhance that which is already you. The tools are to shift the thinking that blocks you from YOU so that you can feel your full Self. What if you didn’t need anything else except the knowledge that you are enough just as you are and the thing that makes the tools so valuable is how they can fix your stinking thinking. ✨✨
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Do you follow @lewishowes ?! His podcast is one of my faves. He offers so many insights for living an emotionally free life and his guests are saying important things for our times. I feel grateful there are men like this in the world when there are so many the patriarchy has harmed. The wounded ones who haven’t engaged with doing their own healing work and continue to perpetuate the harming of others. When I see an awakened man who has healed his trauma and then uses it to heal humanity, I feel hopeful that soon more will begin to do the same. ✨✨
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The moment I start to feel disconnected and scared about life I remember that the one thing that truly gets me reconnected to Source is when I focus my attention on serving and supporting others to shine their light. ✨✨Witnessing you transform your wounds into gifts to heal yourself and in turn humanity, is my greatest joy. How are you shining your light today? Please share! ✨✨
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You know what feeling I’m rehearsing as if it’s already occurred? The joy and relief of watching Biden being sworn in. ...

Somewhere along the line the messaging in our culture became about doing anything we can to avoid pain. Take a look at the pharmaceutical industry for example. Got a headache? Take an aspirin. ✨✨What if that headache had some information to offer you about something you are ignoring or not willing to be with? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone in to get an entrainment @shinecenter with a back pain that disappeared as soon as I sat with my grief around some thing I hadn’t made time to feel. Our bodies are trying to communicate with us at all times if we could just listen we can increase our range, our resiliency. Being with the pain instead of pushing it away can be so transformative. ✨✨ If we keep pushing down those feelings that the pain brings up, life will continue to offer us situations to get our attention and gets louder and louder until we listen. ✨✨This is your reminder that the next time you are confronted with someone who is triggering an old wound, or your body is screaming at you, instead of ignoring it I would encourage you to invite it to help you know yourself on a deeper level emotionally. It’s all connected. Enjoy the process, I promise it gets easier and easier the more you do it and the idea of pain is far more scary than actually feeling it.✨✨
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I’ve been feeling more and more like this version of myself as I continue to stay committed to self care tools I practice daily. In this version of me I feel grounded, alive, connected, self satisfied.… ✨✨Here’s my go to AM self-care routine tool kit.
1. Meditate
2. Quad in my journal (swamp, brag, gratitude, desires)
3. Lions mane coffee
4. Listen to an uplifting interview or podcast while I prep healthy meals
4. Workout with my Zoom crew
5. Wim Hof
6. Spiritual Mind Treatment to call in my desires and intention for the day
7. @sunlightensaunas Sauna if I have time
8. Cold shower
9. Make getting ready a ritual by slowly rubbing lotion and oils on my body temple, adorning myself with curated, handmade, quality clothing and jewelry - step out the door feeling my full self to serve humanity and represent my brand as a Beauty Maker.
10. Call one of my close friends to offer support, gratitude or practice a @MamaGena tool on my way to work.
11. Make the world a more beautiful place by being a boss who leads from the feminine as we create beautiful home interiors for our clients @LMBInteriors.
✨✨Feel free to borrow any and all of these tried and true self-care habits I’ve been using and curating for many, many years. Layering quality, consistent self care habits one on top of another is like building up a gorgeous painting, or home interior. It’s how we can fall deeply in love with ourselves. You don’t have to wait till you are 53 like me 🙂 If you start now and you are in your 20’s or 30’s you will enjoy your wisdom years so much more. You don’t need to do ALL of these if you have young children. Maybe you only have time for one or two of them. Don’t worry, your time to yourself is coming! Either way it’s never too late to prioritize you.
✨✨Even with tools there are some days (like this morning!) when I wake up wondering where this filled up version went. But then I remember I’m only one workout away from a good mood. Or maybe a walk in nature, or a sauna with a Wim Hof session.✨✨What are your tried and true self-care habits that help you feel like the queen or king you know is your most alive version? ✨✨ Comment below and tag a friend you know has tools to add.
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Almost-daily inspo for an authentic, messy, playful, sexy, outrageous, audacious life. Sparks light the fire; regular practice keeps it burning.