Listening to the Pain

If you knew that the pain you are going through was going to become your greatest learning and would set you free if you could just be with it, would that make it easier? Ok then.
Somewhere along the line, our culture decided we should do anything we could to avoid pain. Take a look at the pharmaceutical industry, for example. Got a headache? Take an aspirin. ⁠What if that headache had some information to offer you about something you are ignoring or unwilling to be with?

I am the beloved daughter of the Universe…

I am the beloved daughter of the motherf—ing Universe, in all of her glory. I take a stand for myself. I take my personal power back. I ascend this fear that seeps its toxic poison through the cells and tissues of my body. I claim a spontaneous healing of this fear and anxiety that is not mine and does not belong to me. I will prevail and rise like the phoenix I am, from the ashes. I stay in my own lane and allow all souls to have their own life experiences. I take responsibility where it is mine, and relinquish all other responsibility for anyone but myself.

You don’t make a peony wrong…

Peony in full bloom against a solid wall.

We’re here to wake up together, to walk each other home, to turn on each other’s lights when we forget, so that no one has to sit in the dark. You can have a sister turn on the light for you. There’s no need to ask who is more wise than the other… instead, think about what level of unfolding you are in. You don’t make a peony wrong, whether it’s a tight bud or a full bloom.

Creating Portals to the Divine

When we realize our simple, ordinary, mundane lives can be portals to the divine by practicing presence in this now moment — that is the moment our awakening comes on line. The other day I was sitting in traffic, and observed as my habitual thought patterns turned toward annoyance. My ego didn’t want to be in traffic. It wanted to be napping… hiking… anything but that.⁠ Then I remembered, even sitting in traffic I could choose to let it be a sacred moment.

Free Fall

That time my husband and I headed to the coast well-prepared but without a plan, and fell in love with each other — and life — all over again… Recently my husband Scott and I took a trip to the coast, to escape the smoke. The air had been so bad! So, we got in the car with the intention of just going where we could breathe.

On Grief

I have moments, where I have to express my grief. We might think, we may have been trained as women, not to be messy, not to deeply feel and cry. But there is power in grief. Feeling our emotions unbinds a stuck energy and this enables us to grow into a new version of ourselves. When I am in a wave of grief, my greatest fear is that I will get stuck in it and not have the energy to re-emerge. But that is why we have practices. Our practices can help us make sense of, move through, and harvest the energy of our grief.

Spring Cleaning

Recently my husband Scott went away on his own for a week, to go rock climbing. For my birthday. We made this plan for him to go alone because as our relationship has evolved over 20 years, it’s so clear how different we are. I am an entertainer. I enjoy having people over. Scott is an introvert. So I gave him, and myself, a gift. I said, “I’m going to have a birthday party, and I want you to leave.”

Morning Prayers: Every Divine Hustler needs a prayer practice

Every Divine Hustler needs a prayer practice. As the woman, business owner, goddess, I am, and am always expanding into — this is a foundational tool for me. When I’m resourced, I try to write one every day. Please note: I don’t do this perfectly! Here is one from a recent Monday morning: Sweet spirit, I feel your presence so deeply this morning and truly feel the connection in allowing my mind to still. I know and feel the grace of oneness the awe and beauty of my humanity and the miracle of my soul.