Sparks: the Blog

The way of the heart is not the way of the intellect.

Awakening is a path on which you release the attachment to feeling special.


I can tell I am in my ego when I vacillate between feelings of inadequacy and feelings of thinking I am special in some way. ⁠

And I don’t mean ‘special’ in a good way. I mean ‘special’ in that awful way where I can feel superior because I think I know better, or am better in some ways because I work on myself. ⁠

But when I am in my heart, all of that duality disappears, and then I am love. And from that place, I can forgive myself for feeling inadequate and special. ⁠

The gig is up, Ego. I’m onto you now. ⁠

What are you resisting?

What would it be like if you realized that every thing, every person, every moment of your life has been for your awakening?   One of the most beautiful takeaways from my journey into the shadows via plant medicine, network care, and the myriad of other tools, is that this reality isn’t reality. It’s an…

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Treat Your Business Like A Lover

Once upon a time, a few years ago, as my now-multi-million-dollar business was growing rapidly and I was riding the waves of intensity, I had a conversation with another woman-business owner, Catherine Baldi, who runs a large painting contracting business, Arana Craftsman Painters. She said to me, “Your business is an entity separate from you…

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The Power of Pleasure

If you know me, you know that I was raised Pentecostal. Pentecostals do not like us to talk about pleasure and sex and in fact, it is such a taboo topic, I still don’t talk about it easily, at 53 years old, even though I left that home almost 40 years ago. That conditioning was…

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The Importance of Community

I have to tell you, it has been through recognizing the importance of sisterhood and community that I have come into my own as a woman, expander, teacher, mentor, business owner, boss, and leader. I am so much better at and more connected to these roles because of the sisterhood that I have surrounded myself…

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Operating Your Business from the Feminine

Quick tips and thoughts for design principals or designers planning to start a firm that can be applied today and woven into the daily practices of running a business powered by The Feminine. A few highlights: Foster unity and sisterhood among staff. Look for what’s right in every situation, especially when a client is dissatisfied….

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Breaking Through Your Own Glass Ceiling

I had to get over my own programming around lack in order to build a successful design business serving a high-net-worth clientele. I’m hoping if I share my mistakes, you can learn from them now and build the business you want even more quickly than I did. Divine business tips for Beauty Makers enclosed: How…

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Wim Hof via the Feminine

My real, practical how-to tips for making the Wim Hof method more accessible to women, and how to take your breathwork practice to the next level. Wim Hof is a lovely man, and his way of teaching is very masculine. So this share is from my feminine, my awareness of what the feminine loves, and…

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Life Is a Remix

How I create more fun, joy, and play in my life, how I found my voice… and realizing everything we are doing, all the self-inquiry and biohacking we do, is channeled through us, each of us, alchemized, and then transmitted to those around us — through our unique, potent voices.

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Free Fall

That time my husband and I headed to the coast well-prepared but without a plan, and fell in love with each other — and life — all over again… Recently my husband Scott and I took a trip to the coast, to escape the smoke. The air had been so bad! So, we got in…

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